What is the happy reality of our generation?
16.06.2025 00:00
1991- 2014 ( P.V. Narasimha Rao/ MMS)
Boys and Girls were strictly segregated.
Nehruvian: I belong to the Nehruvian Generation.
Who is the most trusted person in your life, and do they have the same trust on you?
We had to wait for everything. Cars, Scooters, you name it. Nehru’s socialism meant that like the Soviet Union that he admired: There was a wait list for everything.
There is a general atmosphere of intolerance towards minorities, with people unafraid to say things that would’ve been unthinkable in my day.
Life went on in essentially as a late 19th/early 20th century mold.
Do you have any fantasies you are ashamed of?
There are Engineering Colleges in almost every street corner, it seems.
I will also assume that this question is posed vis a vis my generation and compare that to conditions faced by generations today.
As far as the vast majority of Indians, who lived from hand to mouth, there was hope and relief in a plethora of laws passed.
Why is every human messed up in some way?
Everything is available today without any delay. You have the money, you got it in today’s India.
The big Cities have gotten bigger and is almost unlivable now, traffic wise.
Govt. careers, such as IAS, IPS etc. very quickly gave way to Engineering /Medical degrees in the newly developing India (At least in the South).
Schools were fewer. Universities even fewer.
It was to me, anyway, a relatively chaste period.
Newspapers also heavily censored themselves- clashes were referred to as “communal disturbances” between two communities. No details.
2014- Present ( Modi).
IIT’s had just been established.
Growing up in this decade.
Medical Insurance have proliferated along with US style expensive Doctor Bills.
Love marriages were all to be ‘gasped at’ so rare were they at that time.
> Indian Political leaders, for the most part, were all men and some women of the highest educational and moral Calibre at all levels.
I know that some will cavil that I am ignoring I. K. Gujral, Chandrasekhar, Deve Gowda, Morarji Desai, even the redoubtable A.B. Vajpayee’s stint as PM. But bear with me, for the moment. This is done on purpose and to make comparisons simpler.
> The horrors of Partition meant that the Govt would make sincere efforts to put all that behind us and accommodate all faiths.
Education has gotten so much more expensive.
How does a 45-year-old man get a girlfriend?
Study of Law (so important in my Dad’s generation gave way to Engineering and Medicine)
> “Secularism” was dinned into our ears until it became “second nature”, to most of us anyway.
There was no TV… Doordarshan of very poor quality only reserved for New Delhi.
What is the most inappropriate thing your wife has done in front of you?
Young Kids have a lot of money these days and are getting married much later.
> India’s population was around 365 million.
5 Star hotels are dime a dozen.
Why do guys have better skin than women even though women use more product?
Hospitals everywhere in India, with excellent care offered.
Indian Media is being controlled by a few business houses and the news especially foreign news is presented in a slanted way to suit the way, the Govt. would like it to be seen or not seen at all.
> We grew up basking in the first flush of the pleasant prospect of an “Independent” resurgent India.
>Both Central and State. Most of the Leaders were educated in the finest traditions of liberalism, often at Oxford and Cambridge and they had sacrificed their ‘cushy futures” for the cause of independence. When country’s rule passed into their hands, what would one expect?. Little if any corruption at the highest levels, or at least the perception of it.
I’m going to attempt to taxonomy “Generations” in India as below.
Foreign Exchange were so hard to come by in case you had to go abroad.
What is an easy way to get your driver's license?
Boys and Girls these days are not afraid to be friends to each other (My opinion overall a good thing)
Ministers etc. were the only ones to have the Indian Flag on their bonnets. (Don’t know why?)
Live-in, LGBTQ, none of these made the headlines.
> Leaders such as Nehru, Rajaji, Morarji Desai etc. were held to the highest standard and they fulfilled that expectation. The idea that they were corrupt was unthinkable, any more than the thought that one’s parents had sex with each other. It was an age, in retrospect, of “innocence” and not just at the level of us kids.
Now folks on Quora have undoubtably heard the so-called term “Boomer Generation” used in the US. Interestingly enough these time periods dovetail quite nicely with “Indian Conditions” as well.
Import Substitution was the mantra.
What are some cute stories with your crush?
South Indian Cinema had great actors and story lines that we could relate.
> Idealism reigned supreme, about the Govt. and it people and why not?
People got married the old fashioned way (mostly).
The Airports have gotten better and nicer.
The middle class was small, but not that stressed from inflation etc.
2014- Present
There are also proliferation of IT cells that offer an altered reality of the world, as they would like to see it and not as it really is.
Five Star Hotels were not as ubiquitous as today.
> River Dams, Public Sector undertakings, Five year Plans galore, HMT, HAL, ITI etc. gave us the aam aami the euphoric feeling that we were on the right track to our deserved place as a great power in the comity of nations.
Redefined
Indian industry started to make cars and other goods.
On a personal level.
Very few boys strayed and even fewer girls.
South Indian Films have now gained an All India Traction and seems to be edging out Bollywood, as it portrays less of a fake India than Bollywood.
Also, the Indian Economy while growing fast, is not able to provide jobs for sizable number of young men in the nation and that is a problem.
Live in relationship; Divorce (almost unheard of in my youth) don’t raise an eyebrow.
Now of course,Today Secularism to many is a dirty word and so is Socialism;
Foreign goods, forget about it, mostly sold in black markets.
Thank you for the question. Ms. Priya C.
I will first attempt to use the nomenclature used to distinguish “generations” -albeit from a Desi Slant.
Computers were just creeping in and opposed by the Labor Unions.
Hindi Cinema had some great songs and tunes, even if many of us in the South especially didn’t understand such words as Ishq, Waqt, Zulf in the Hindi songs.
1947–1964 ( Post Independence Generation). (Roughly Nehruvian)
1964- 1984–1991 ( Roughly Indira/ Rajeev Gandhi)
The first flush of aaya rams and gaya rams were creeping into the body politic of our legislature and that is when I left for the USA and that was almost 50 yrs. ago.
Women in India seem to have more freedom, even as they feel more afraid of the general environment.
The first flush of enthusiasm of the Nehruvian age soon turned into despondency as Public Sector Industry after Public Sector Industry were all running in losses.
Your parents chose your career path and also your profession. Aptitude be damned.
Pluses:
It was very very hard for the general category people to get seats in the few Engineering and Medical Colleges in the State, let alone the IIT’s.
Many Indian Journalists have now been co opted so that they too are now in the money making business and currying favor with the powers that be. So how objective can their writings be?
And then we did not have Google, Facebook, Whatsapp, Instagram.
Even though inflation was rising, there was a semblance of stability in the daily routine of everybody. The institutions and arms of the Govt. worked for the most part. Judiciary, Police, Govt bureaucracy etc.
Bank Jobs were highly sought after.